Top 5 Ways To Break Out Of A Boring Life

There are so many times in life we find ourselves in a holding pattern. Do you know what I’m talking about? Nothing is really happening in your life. Your job sucks. Your financial situation sucks. Your social life sucks. Maybe you wouldn’t say it sucks really, but it’s definitely boring and there’s no perception of real progress. What’s really going on here?

You might be waiting for that big break, that windfall of cash, that hot chick to come and ask you out. Let me tell you a secret: It’s not going to happen. Wait a minute! I can hear you screaming. I’m a talented guy or girl and I deserve it and I’m good-looking and fun, blah, blah, blah… You know what? Nobody cares!

Ouch. That kind of hurts, don’t it? Now, get over it. You have work to do. What I’m trying to tell you is that if you want something to happen to break you out of the excruciating holding pattern that life has become for you, you’re going to have to do it yourself.

That’s right. No one is going to do it for you. I know you already know that, but you have to really focus on this and make it a cause for action. If you want something good to happen in your life, if you want to make progress, you have to take action.

This is all about getting out of your comfort zone. This is a stretch for a lot of people because we all tend to stick with what we know, what feels safe. If this is how you feel and you hate it, here are the top 5 ways to break out of the holding pattern your life has become:

1. Go somewhere alone. Many of us don’t feel safe or secure doing things without other people. Maybe your significant other has moved on or is too busy to hang with you. Then do it yourself! Go see a movie or a band, go out to eat at a new place you’ve been wanting to try out.

2. Learn something new. Take a class at your local community college. Try something you’re not already good or experienced with, like golf lessons or learning to speak Italian or cook Indian food. It’ll give you a chance to stretch your horizons and meet new people who may be interested in some of the same things as you.

3. Talk to a stranger. Don’t be afraid to talk to people. Make a joke with the check out girl or the old guy in line ahead of you. Say hi to that cute girl or guy you keep seeing at the bookstore and don’t leave without an email address or phone number. Get over your fears of meeting new people.

4. Take risks professionally. Speak up in that meeting at work, volunteer for a project, stand up for yourself against an attack or unfair comment by a coworker. It’s time to start asserting yourself. This will help build your confidence to change the way you act which will change the way others act toward you and eventually change the way you perceive the world around you.

5. Start/stop a habit. For God’s sake, stop biting your fingernails! Stop doing those things that you hate that you do and start taking up habits that are good for you. If it’s a quick rush of something that makes you feel good for a couple minutes and then bad afterward, that’s a good sign that it’s not good for you. Build good, guilt-free habits. Start exercising each day and drop that soda and bag of chips you’re having at your desk every afternoon.

It may feel strange at first, but after some practice you’ll get used to it and really enjoy experiencing new things. The changes you want to see in your life have to come from the inside first and then move outward. Some of these things you’ll have to do alone at first, but over time others will notice your positive and exciting outlook on life and want to spend time with you.

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49 Responses to Top 5 Ways To Break Out Of A Boring Life

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  4. Maile says:

    Great top 5! I totally agree with you. Pushing your comfort zone, even a little bit, can go a long way in shaking up the patterns and habits that keep you unhappy.

    It’s also important for people to recognize the trap of all-or-nothing thinking that pushes so many of us back into our old ways. Stop biting your nails just for today. Or just for an hour, or whatever. Give yourself credit for the small accomplishment then tackle another; over time they’ll add up to a big change.

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  11. ray says:

    Hi Maile. Thanks! These are things that I’ve found not just useful, but essential in my own life. I see so many people who just seem stuck. They aren’t getting anywhere because they’re really not trying, only holding on. It takes massive effort sometimes to get past this plateau, but it’s definitely worth it.

    Your idea about changing your habits only for a short time is a great one, too. That helps to get rid of the mountain that big life changes can become in our own minds and takes them down to a manageable level. Thanks for your comment!

  12. Buda Baby says:

    I worked with a great manager once who had her whole team work outside their comfort zones. The group had essentially been a team of people specializing in a particular area. She had everyone change it up; this was something people were evaluated on. Some people couldn’t cut it and left, but frankly they were the weakest links on the team, and the whole group became stronger as a result of the exercise. I admired this manager for taking the risk. Results may have been poorer in the short term, but the long term payoff was immense.

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  14. Chelich says:

    I found that starting a good habit and learning something new always forces me to get out of my comfort zone; plus it also pushes me to gain a new perspective on things. (Personally, I believe that everybody should learn a new skill ever couple of months, if not for the knowledge, just for the fun of doing something different.)

    The things you’ve written about are all things I’ve noticed before, just never really thought about – awesome post!

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  18. ray says:

    Hey Buda Baby. That’s a tough sell when you’re dealing with employees. Most companies will fight to the death against outside the box thinking and employees are accustomed to that. It seems like it’s most effective when self-imposed, but I agree that it’s definitely a good way to separate the strong from the weak. Thanks for your comment!

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  20. ray says:

    Hi Chelich. I agree about learning new things every couple of months and the reason for doing so, too. I don’t know if all the things we’re interested in give us any real benefit in terms of knowledge, but the added excitement and fun in life are priceless. Thanks for visiting!

  21. Hi Ray

    Great Top 5! Comfort Zones… Habits…. Breaking Free…

    One other – perhaps a little madder way to escape boredom – is to wait for a full moon night. Drink a few glasses of wine, then you and a friend – strip naked and go for a moonlit walk… VERY liberating – and probably the funniest thing you will do in your life… try to select a very quiet area though – where the chances of you not being seen are very slim!!!

    One other way – become a life long digital nomad!! I’ve just been asked to take part in a meme on this subject, and as you expressed an interest in my site – I’ve also tagged you in… have a look under what is a digital nomad..!!

    Take care

  22. ray says:

    Hey Tina. Thanks! I’ll make you a deal: Next time I’m in England (or wherever you may be), if you go first, I’ll do it!

    I’m going to check out your digital nomad meme. Thanks for the tag and thanks for commenting!

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  40. Pradeep says:

    Great five things those.
    But they dont quite work excelently with me. But I am little in a mess. I have landed in this place called Saarbrucken in Germany. Well, Im basically from India and from a place where I liveed with family ad friends and work and was totally occupied and actually never found time for many a things. And then, something wiered happened, I decided to do my master studies and chose this place in Germany. I should have instead chosen US I feel now, since I woukld have been in a better position there.
    Firstly, very very few people here speak Englisch and moreover they would not prefer speaking it because of so called patriotism(rather fanaticism) towards their own mother tongue. And besides, its damn difficult to make friends here, they have a crazy education system that I was not aware of and the only guy im in touch with is my class mate(we rae just 2 people for the course this semester, rather strange).
    Im just thirsting for some email pals or so, and I log in to find alteast some online german communities, and u know what, all of them are in German. Even the chat rooms and my German is way too bad to converse with those people, they use the local lingo while speaking.
    Hilf Bitte!

  41. ray says:

    Hi Pradeep. Es tut mir lied. Ich hoffe, daß es besser erhält.

    My German’s a little rusty, but the language may actually be the key to making things better for you. I hate to suggest you add something more to your study load, which I know can be a lot of work in graduate school, but have you considered enrolling in a German class?

    This can be beneficial in a couple of different ways. First of all, it will improve your German speaking skills. Second, it will help you to find friends with the same problems you’re having. There must be plenty of non-Germans who have come there to work or study and need help with the language.

    See if you can find a class that is taught by a local and that is more casual than a university type class. It’s best to find one that’s taught in small groups, too. I really think this will help you out. Let me know how this works for you. Viel Glueck!

  42. Pradeep says:

    Yo Ray,
    Thanks for that reply. I have enrolled in a German class but this is a part of our credit point system and not much fun in class, its very academic. But there seems to be an internationaol office in our university. Thats the key place where a lost ausländer is suppose to go to. They condudt monthly excursions and stmmtisches and stuff. Its nice. Allthough manz a times we see Germans themselves enrolled in this program(meant for foreigners), its reallz allright. Its fun. I know a couple of Indian guys here at the Uni now and we plan for weekend excursions with the schönes wockenende fahrkarte. At the study point of view, I seriously doubt if I can complete my masters in 2 years, but as long as I find some part time job later to manage my expences(kinda tough in Germanty, but not impossible), I can survive. Would like to move to Köln given a chance, very open minded people there.
    Thanks again,

  43. ray says:

    Hey Pradeep. It’s my pleasure. It sounds like you’re on the right track. Hang in there and don’t worry about the small stuff. Have fun!

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