You Really ARE Alone… And It’s OK
Published February 13th, 2008 in happiness, life, positive thinkingHave you ever felt completely and totally alone? I mean, have you felt as if everything familiar to you was gone or going? That feeling of terrible, desperate loneliness can drag you to depths you never before imagined. It can also be the point of realization that YOU are the one who is ultimately responsible for your life.
Think about that feeling of utter desolation for a moment. It’s awful, isn’t it? Really, though, what are the things that you think about that cause you to feel that way? It’s not you, it’s not something inside of you. All of the things that cause the awful emptiness are external factors.
Often these are events and situations that are completely beyond our control. We can’t control the weather. The storms will come no matter how hard we pray or stand shaking our fists and cursing at the gathering clouds. We can’t control the awful things that happen to innocent people on the other side of the world. The geopolitical machinations grind on no matter who we vote into office or what organizations we send our checks to. We can’t control how other people think and feel, either.
In this modern world of so much power and technology, there’s this sense that things are under control. We’re bombarded with media images of beautiful, ever-youthful people living a life of opulence, excitement, and pleasure. Nothing bad happens to them. But, it does.
Celebrities die young. Beauty fades and becomes marred by the passage of time and the corrosive effects of a life of indulgence. No one can control the world around them to any real extent. Lightning strikes, floods wash over the land, and tornadoes wreak havoc on the sticks and stones we put together over our heads to keep cold reality at bay.
Ultimately, each of us is alone. Completely alone. This can incite a feeling of utter terror. Once that terror subsides, though, there is only you, that spiritual something that resides inside the shell of your body.
That’s the part that is safe. It’s the part that cannot be changed by all the powers of the universe unless you allow it. It’s the inner self that is safe from the raging seas of a world that often seems completely mad. Remember that always when the waves seem to be crashing down on you and breaking your world into bits and washing it away. YOU are safe.
Hmmmmm!!
Food for thought, yes its ok to be alone i’m sure most people have felt alone at some point, it makes me think of that old addage..you don’t have to be alone to be lonely!
I’ve been working for myself now for a number of years and sometimes have felt very alone……..staring at the telephone waiting for it to ring so I could speak to someone. However i’m now over that and working on my online business using James Brausch as a mentor, someone to talk to at last…….only joking!!
Don’t despair there is always hope!
Wow! Gut wrenching post there! i dont think i have ever felt that wretched kind of loneliness myself, thankfully. But your post provides good motivation for someone who is.
Thanks. Lately, there have been a lot of times I’ve been staring at a blank wall and contemplating my life. This is a feeling I’ve had to deal with. I hope to share more in the future and I hope that I can inspire others to keep going with a positive attitude and succeed despite difficult times. Thanks for commenting!
Ray, I ache for you. I have gone through similar experiences to know what it is like. i finally discovered the difference between being alone and solitude. That has brought a great deal of change in my outlook and I am much better off for it.
“Only when one is connected to one’s own core is one connected to others. And, for me, the core, the inner spring, can best be re-found through solitude…” Anne Morrow Lindbergh.
May I recommend a great book to read? Letters To My Son, by Kent Nerburn. It is a mind blowing read.
Awesome contemplation!
Instead of feeling the fear of being alone, go into it fully. Experience everything you possibly can feel and surrender to it. What you’ll find thats left is your inner-being / true-self / god / source energy that has always been there with you, because it IS you.
Great post, thank you for sharing.
Gary
Thanks, Music, for the recommendation and the kind words and thanks, Gary, for the ideas. There’s so much to be gained by surrendering. I mean that in the sense of not fighting against reality. I think many of us waste so much time in this useless struggle. In fact, I’m going to turn that into a post!